Frequently Asked Questions

The best way to find out is a free 15-minute consultation — no pressure, no commitment. We'll talk through where you are, what you're working with, and whether my approach feels like a fit. Most people know pretty quickly. If it's not the right match, I'll tell you honestly and point you toward something that might serve you better.

It depends on where you are and what you need. The courses — Date Courageously and Pattern Return™ — are a great entry point if you want to explore the work at your own pace, or if you're not ready to commit to 1:1 sessions yet. Coaching is for people who want direct, personal support and are ready to go deeper. Many clients do both: start with a course, then move into coaching when they're ready. The free consultation is the best place to figure this out together.

A real conversation, not a sales pitch. We'll spend 15 minutes talking about where you are, what brought you here, and what you're hoping to work on. I'll share how I work and whether I think I can help. You can ask me anything. At the end, if it feels right for both of us, we'll talk about next steps.

Yes, completely. I work with individuals, couples, and chosen relationships across the full spectrum of gender identity, sexual orientation, and relationship structure — including monogamous, non-monogamous, polyamorous, and LGBTQ+ clients. All are welcome here without judgment.

Date Courageously is a self-paced online crash course in modern dating — built on my ECEC® Method. It's 4 modules, 8 short videos, and somatic practice in every session. Most people complete it in a weekend. It covers everything from writing a dating profile to first dates, body language, erotic embodiment, and building real confidence — not a performance of it. It's $197 and available instantly.

Pattern Return™ is a 6-week somatic course for people caught in compulsive patterns — phone checking, scrolling, pornography, gaming, food, alcohol, or any behavior you reach for when you're bored, lonely, stressed, or overwhelmed. It's not about willpower or restriction. It works by helping your nervous system learn something new — so the pattern changes at the root, not just on the surface. 6 weeks, 12 videos, somatic practice every session. $497.

Yes — both courses are entirely self-paced. You can move through them as quickly or as slowly as you need. There are no deadlines, no live sessions to attend, and no expiration on access.

No prior experience needed. The courses are designed to meet you exactly where you are. Each session includes a guided somatic practice that I walk you through — so you're never left to figure it out alone.

Yes. Date Courageously is as much about knowing yourself and building embodied confidence as it is about dating mechanics. Many people take it while single, between relationships, or simply because they want more aliveness in how they show up — regardless of relationship status.

Yes. While the course addresses digital patterns specifically (phone, scroll, gaming, pornography), the underlying method works for any compulsive behavior you reach for to check out — food, alcohol, shopping, work, exercise, chaos, or fantasy. The nervous system doesn't distinguish between them. If you're not sure, book a free consultation and we'll talk it through.

At the end of each course, there's an invitation to go deeper — either through a 1:1 coaching session with me, or by exploring the other course. Many people find the course opens something they want to continue working on with direct support. That's always available, but there's no pressure.

Sessions are 90 minutes — longer than traditional coaching because the nervous system needs time to settle, open, and do real work. We use a combination of conversation, somatic practice, breathwork, movement, and embodied exercises tailored to what you're working on. This isn't talk therapy. We don't just talk about what's happening — we work with it, in the body. Every session is different depending on where you are and what wants to move.

No. I'm a somatic coach and certified sex educator, not a therapist or licensed mental health professional. Coaching is forward-focused and experiential — we work with what's happening in your body and your life right now, and build toward where you want to go. If you're dealing with trauma, severe mental health conditions, or need clinical support, I'll tell you honestly and can point you toward appropriate resources.

Somatic means body-based. Somatic coaching works with what's happening in your nervous system, not just your thoughts or narrative. In practice, this means using breath, movement, sound, and embodied awareness to create change that sticks — not just insight that fades. Most of the patterns that keep us stuck aren't mental problems. They live in the body. That's where we work.

Yes. I work with couples on intimacy, desire, communication, and reconnection — using the same somatic, experiential approach as my individual work. Sessions involve both partners and are tailored to what's alive between you. Reach out to discuss whether couples coaching is the right fit.

It depends on what you're working on and how deep you want to go. Some clients come for a single session to address something specific. Most find that real, lasting change happens over 6–8 weeks — which is why I offer The Full Container (8 sessions). The research on nervous system integration is clear: it takes consistent, repeated practice over time for new patterns to take root. The free consultation is a good place to talk through what makes sense for you.

8 sessions (90 minutes each), weekly or biweekly. Unlimited text and email support between sessions. A shared Google Doc for notes, homework, reflections, and practices. My full presence and 15 years of experience, built around your specific goals. The clients who take full advantage of the between-session support see the deepest transformation — because the work doesn't stop when the session ends.

Yes — and online is where most of my clients do their best work. The privacy of your own space, no commute, and the comfort of your own environment all create conditions for deeper presence, not less. I work with online clients across the US and worldwide. Sessions are via video and carry exactly the same depth and somatic practice as in-person.

I see in-person clients in Oakland (primary location — 2940 Summit St) and San Francisco (2211 Post St, Suite 300 — currently full, email to join the waitlist). Both offices are private, quiet, and designed for focused, embodied work.

Courses: Date Courageously is $197. Pattern Return™ is $497. 1:1 Coaching: Single session $350 online / $400 in-person (90 minutes). The Full Container — 8 sessions + unlimited support + homework doc — is $2,800 online / $3,200 in-person. Payment options: paid in full, or two equal payments.

Payment is due at booking to hold your session. I ask for 48 hours notice to reschedule or cancel. Cancellations with less than 48 hours notice are non-refundable. Life happens — if something comes up, reach out and we'll do our best to work something out.

Yes. Everything shared in sessions and between sessions is held in strict confidence. I don't share client information with anyone. Coaching confidentiality is similar to therapy confidentiality in practice, though coaching is not a licensed profession in the same way — if you have specific questions about this, please ask.

Completely. Most people are. The territory we work in — desire, shame, intimacy, patterns you've kept private — isn't something most of us have ever talked about openly with anyone. That nervousness usually means you're right at the edge of something important. The free consultation is low-stakes: 15 minutes, no commitment, no judgment. It's just a conversation. You can come as you are.